After growing up with little to no real sex education, Lex discovered that curiosity about intimacy could become a calling. What began as frustration with silence and stigma turned into a passion for sexology, a field where education, empowerment, and pleasure intersect.
Today, Lex is dedicated to making conversations about sexual health accessible and shame-free. From breaking down myths about STIs to guiding adults toward deeper, more honest intimacy, their work emphasises that pleasure isn’t just about orgasm; it’s about connection, consent, and confidence.
In this interview, Lex opens up about navigating period sex without stigma, choosing safe toys for every body, and shifting focus from size to true satisfaction. At the heart of their message is a reminder that sexuality is fluid, shame has no place in the bedroom, and learning about our desires is a lifelong journey.
The Journey Into Sexual Wellness
Your work blends education, kink, and breaking down stigma around sexuality. What inspired you to dedicate your lifestyle and career to sexology, and why does this field feel so meaningful to you?
Lex: My interest in sexology stems from personal experience. I grew up really not having great sex education (as most people don’t), so I always wanted to learn more. I remember when I found out that having cold sores (aka HSV, aka herpes) was for life and thinking, “wait a minute, shouldn’t this have been taught in school?! I also went to a very conservative school, so conversations around sex weren’t really happening, so I’m passionate about making sex education accessible for everyone.
Exploring Toys and Safety
As we see sex toys becoming more mainstream for both women and men, do you think they’re always safe to use? What should people look out for when choosing toys for their bodies?
Lex: I think that toys can be a great addition to the bedroom, whether for solo play or partnered play, although some people may not feel comfortable with them. Each body is different, and I think people should consider what they’re hoping to get out of adding a toy. By doing this, choosing a toy can be easier!
Sex and Menstruation
There’s been more open conversation recently about period sex; some celebrate it, others shy away. From your perspective, how can couples navigate the mix of safety, comfort, and intimacy during menstruation?
Lex: : Menstruation is a part of life, and it baffles me how much stigma is still associated with it. There are so many things to consider when deciding on intimacy during menstruation. Having open communication with your partner is vital intimacy can be anywhere from cuddles to massages to sex! Any of these are find as long as everyone is comfortable and communicates their needs.
Sex Education for Adults:
How do you believe sex education can evolve to better serve adults, not just younger populations?
Lex: There are so many aspects to sex education, and I love providing sex education to adults. I think it’s an opportunity to be a little bit more in-depth with details and to speak more openly and freely about sex, including pleasure. As we get older, our priorities in sex change; we become more experienced, more knowledgeable, and more curious. I am a firm believer that we should never stop learning, and this includes sex education!
Sexual Health Beyond Performance
Size is often treated as the ultimate marker of masculinity, yet so many men carry insecurities around it. From your perspective, how can we move the conversation beyond size and toward what truly creates pleasure and connection in sex?
Lex: Did you know that on average, it takes penis owners 4-7 minutes to orgasm during partnered sex and vulva owners 20-40 minutes? I think the discussion around size is outdated, as there are so many other ways to enjoy your partner. The focus of sex for both partners should be pleasure, not orgasm. Explore with your partner what they like!
Myths of Sexual Health
In your experience, what are some common misconceptions about sexual health that you wish more adults understood?
Lex:: STIs are not dirty, and getting tested isn’t shameful!
A Transformative Moment
Can you share a moment when you realized sex education could transform someone’s understanding of their own desires and boundaries?
Lex: I think discussions I’ve had with people around sex being something that they either agree to or decline, there is a whole spectrum of pleasures, desires, and kinks. Also, discussions around consent, particularly that consent can be withdrawn at any time.
A Final Word of Empowerment
What’s one empowering message or practice you’d like every adult reading this interview to take away about their sexual and emotional well-being?
Lex: sexuality and sexual well-being are fluid; they can change, and it is important to own it! Shame and stigma do not belong in sex; it’s such a natural thing. Love yourself, and enjoy pleasure!
Editor’s Note:
Our conversation with Lex shows that sexual wellness isn’t about following rules or meeting expectations; it’s about exploring curiosity, unlearning shame, and giving ourselves permission to own our desires. Pleasure, intimacy, and connection come from honesty, consent, and embracing what feels right for each of us. Through their work and lived experience, Lex demonstrates that true empowerment comes from claiming our sexuality fully and without apology.
