In this revealing conversation, Alex, a mentor in embodied power and conscious sexuality, explores how our bodies hold the keys to intimacy, self-expression, and profound connection. From the transformative practice of kink and BDSM to the art of sexual polarity, he illuminates how desire, boundaries, and playfulness shape our relationships and inner lives.

Alex challenges conventional ideas of masculinity, vulnerability, and sexual confidence, advocating for a holistic approach where emotional well-being, erotic expression, and personal growth are inseparable. His vision is clear: to awaken adults to their sexual sovereignty, ignite their vitality, and create deeply connected, passionate, and conscious relationships.

We spoke with Alex about the journey that brought him here, why embodiment is central to intimacy, and how consciously exploring desire can transform both relationships and life.

Embodied Power

Meet Alex. You work with clients on harnessing their “embodied power” and sexual sovereignty. Can you describe a moment when you realized how much our bodies hold the key to intimacy and self-expression?

Alex: Sure. It would be around the time in my own practice when I that slowing down, breathing deep, feeling inward, & tracking sensation would create a deeper sense of presence. Initially, this was in my semen retention practice & learning Chi Gong, but when I brought this quality into lovemaking—or just in conversation—the felt sense experience of “depth” & connection was unmistakable.

Sexuality & Wellness

Sexuality is often treated as separate from wellness. How do you define the connection between sexual health, emotional well-being, and overall vitality?

Alex: They are all one thing. Life force and vitality are directly linked to our sense of erotic identity & expression. Our well-being comes from feeling more alive & more connected. That’s our human birthright. Good sex & emotional regulation are essential for a well-lived life. Often, we are walking around in a chronic state of tension & anxiety. Or just numb. Wellness must include a holistic approach to the mind, body, somatic, psychological, and emotional areas—but especially good sex. This tends to boost our wellness more than most other areas.

Kink and BDSM

You integrate kink, BDSM, and polarity work into your practice. What role do these modalities play in helping people understand themselves and their relationships on a deeper level?

Alex: They are very powerful practices for self-discovery. For intense arousal. For shadow work. For intensely cathartic experiences. Kink is the realm of taboo—the naughty factor—and BDSM is a practice of working with power dynamics & the darker aspects of human sexual experience. Often, society relegates these darker aspects into the shadows. Kink & BDSM allow us to bring it up to the surface and play with it, which allows for very profound exchanges of sensual, psychological & energetic sexual experiences. We find parts of ourselves that need to be seen, expressed & played with—and this is highly impactful for our growth & sense of arousal & excitement. Polarity is the fire that fuels all passionate relationships. Without it, intimacy dies. The spark fades. People go numb. Couples either in the vince So sexual polarity is the juicy hotness everyone craves—and learning to cultivate it in our relationships is a profound art form. Often, BDSM is a very powerful way to bring back more polarity into a couple’s dynamic.

Men’s Mental Health & Sexuality

Do you think men’s mental health is more affected by issues around intimacy, sexual expression, and societal expectations than women’s? How does this show up in your work with male clients?

Alex: I think men face their own unique challenges—and neither sex has the monopoly on who suffers more. Men’s mental health is in crisis. The rate of men committing suicide is far higher than that of women. The cultural shifts of the last few decades have left men feeling very confused about their roles in society—and especially their roles in relationships. We are told very conflicting things by our culture about what being a man means. We have zero decent sexual education. Pornography has hijacked our minds & bodies—teaching us a warped way of sex. We are not taught how to handle a woman’s emotions. We are shamed for our inherent masculinity, but then we are told our worth is only defined by being stoic, solid providers—who also now need to be emotionally attuned. But not too attuned and emotional—because that kills polarity. What I am saying is that a new paradigm of masculine leadership is emerging—that is forcing men to take up the reins and become powerful leaders again, to be emotionally regulated, to be sensitive yet powerful lovers, & to be providers of safety & structure. To know themselves and their wounds & talents—and to be in circles with other men learning how to figure this out so they can WIN. But to get to this point is a lot for many men to work toward while we are healing our unique traumas & core wounds from our upbringing. But it’s our great work in this time, so I love helping my clients engage the path of growth and take full responsibility for their path forward as men of depth, gravity & love.

Confessions in Therapy

What’s the wildest or most surprising story you’ve encountered in your work (anonymously, of course) that changed your perspective on desire?

Alex: I think it has been with certain clients and partners where very deep and delicious taboo fantasies were explored. It taught me about the depravity that lives in our different inner worlds—and that exploring these extreme scenarios released something very profound in their experience. An example would be a scene where a woman wanted to watch her partner engage in rough, degrading sex with another woman, and she wanted to be bound and tied in the corner. Forced to watch. This scene fed her energetic and kinky aspect of her erotic blueprint. The consensual cuckhold aspect made her lover more alluring and powerful, the distance aspect created immense tension in her system, and the theme of being degraded and humiliated caused her immense arousal. It really is remarkable what causes “turn on” in our private inner worlds.

Masculinity & Vulnerability

You’ve spoken about your struggles with manhood and relationships. How do you define a “sexually confident man” today, and what advice do you have for men navigating vulnerability in intimacy?

Alex: I would define a sexually confident man as a man who feels very secure in his body, who can store and sublimate his seed, who knows how to handle a woman’s body & emotions, and who is well-versed in giving and receiving pleasure. A man who has had enough experience to feel “competent” in his lover skills and wants to explore and lead himself and his lovers into amazing experiences of mutual gifting and exploration. He is firm and caring, attentive and dominant. He is connected to his cock & his heart.

The advice I would have for men navigating vulnerability in intimacy is that they have to have a range of resources to explore their inner world. We need our tribe to offer us wise counsel & reflection. We need a therapist or coach to be guided. We need mentors and examples of how to relate successfully—otherwise, we are just fumbling in the dark trying to figure it out. Vulnerability is a tricky concept for men. We are terrified of exposing ourselves, and often we shouldn’t be taking our burdens and pain to our partners as it’s too much pressure. But we can’t hold it all on our own. That’s why I advise every man to be in a men’s circle, to hire a coach, & to seek guidance to be a better lover so he can feel supported as he does the work.

That said, learning how to be intimate with our partners is a natural outcome of being intimate with ourselves, and then learning the correct ways of bringing our hearts and communication, listening, and presence to our woman becomes the art that we practice.

Don’t Always Give Her What She Wants”

Some people say that keeping a bit of mystery or not always giving your partner exactly what they want can enhance desire and intimacy. What’s your perspective on this idea, and how do you guide couples to balance desire, boundaries, and playfulness in their relationships?

Alex: Yes, I think we need to have strong yet elegant boundaries in our relationships. The nice guy is the over-giving man who doesn’t know how to push back against his partner. It isn’t very trustworthy. Men who have a backbone and can speak their needs are far more trustworthy to their women. And also—it’s sexy when we are lovingly denied something we want. It creates tension. Longing. Yearning. This is why I advise the men I work with to experiment with teasing their partners. Make her beg for your cock. Tell her she can’t have a certain treat until she has earned it. The crucial pattern here is pressure-tension-release. Working with reward & punishment. Or simply teasing your woman with illicit ideas—this is foreplay. I teach couples to always be seducing each other. To bring back playful behaviors that create a little back & forth. Tussle with each other! Stop being so sweet and agreeable. Learn to add a bit of bite back into the mix.

Vision for Conscious Sexuality

Looking at the bigger picture, what is your ultimate vision for how adults can engage with sexuality, intimacy, and relationships in a conscious, liberated, and joyful way?

Alex: My vision and mission are to create a warrior class of men who are loving savages in the bedroom and bold, grounded leaders in their lives. I am here to facilitate the awakening of men and women into their sexual sovereignty—which means helping them really know who they are as erotic beings, and a large part of my mission is to provide very safe spaces of exploration for men, women, and couples to go to the edges and back so they can really feel alive and full of life force. I make a stand for harmonious, passionate relationships & allowing people to release their limitations around sex and relationships so they can show up more fully committed and connected. I am currently creating a range of global workshops, programs, and retreats with other facilitators to bring this work to the world.

Editor’s Note

In a culture that often shies away from curiosity, play, and raw desire, Alex stands as a beacon for conscious sexuality. A mentor in embodied power, he guides adults to explore intimacy, boundaries, and erotic expression with intention and courage. Through his workshops, coaching, and retreats, he invites people to awaken their sexual sovereignty, helping them connect deeply with themselves and their partners and reclaim pleasure as a source of vitality, growth, and empowerment. His work is a compelling reminder that sexuality is not just an act but a profound practice of self-discovery, presence, and liberation. In this candid conversation, Alex illuminates everything from kink and BDSM to sexual polarity and conscious masculinity, offering a bold vision of relationships and desire.

He said, “I am here to facilitate the awakening of men and women into their sexual sovereignty, which means helping them really know who they are as erotic beings.”