Elizabeth is a sex educator who has turned her own history of silence and shame into a path of clarity, confidence, and healing for others. After growing up in an environment where sexuality was avoided and questions were unwelcome, she built a platform that helps people understand their bodies without fear or judgment.

Through honest conversations, practical guidance, and a commitment to inclusive education, she supports individuals in exploring pleasure, boundaries, and sexual wellness in a way that feels open, safe, and empowering.

Her work blends evidence-based sex education with a compassionate, real-world approach that meets people where they are. She focuses on helping others unlearn shame, build body confidence, and develop the language they need to talk about sex with ease. For Elizabeth, sex education isn’t just a lesson. It’s a tool for autonomy, clarity, and a stronger relationship with yourself.

In this interview, we talk about her personal journey, how she’s changing the way people think about sex, and why embracing your desires and your voice can be a powerful step toward freedom and self-acceptance.

Breaking Taboos

Growing up in a household where sex was considered taboo, what were some of the challenges you faced in exploring and understanding your own sexuality, and how did those experiences shape your approach as a sex educator?

Elizabeth: I was raised in a very religious household. My parents were religious leaders, and talking about sex was not something that ever happened. I didn’t even know what a safe touch or an unsafe touch was. I knew nothing about my body, about vaginal health, or even how to recognize what was normal. Because of that silence, I faced a lot of challenges. I experienced abuse from outsiders and even family members who would visit, but I didn’t have the language or confidence to communicate what was happening. I didn’t even know how to say it.

As I got older, I started feeling guilty for having sexual desires or curiosity. I remember sneaking to watch 18+ movies behind my parents’ backs and feeling things I didn’t understand, then feeling ashamed for having those feelings. There was so much guilt around simply existing in my body.

Most of what I learned about sex came from my friends and peers, and of course, it wasn’t the right information. It was full of myths and half-truths. Looking back, I realize how much that silence shaped me. It made me determined to make sure other young people don’t grow up feeling confused, guilty, or voiceless about their own bodies the way I did.

Finding Your Calling

You’ve described turning a curiosity about sex into a career. Can you share a moment when you realized that sex education was your calling, and what kept you motivated despite early criticism?

Elizabeth: I don’t think there was a particular day when I discovered that sex education was my calling. It wasn’t a lightbulb moment; it was something that grew naturally over time. I’ve always been a very curious person, and because I didn’t receive any proper education or training about sex while growing up, I started to learn on my own when I got to university and finally had access to a phone.

I would go online to read articles, search for answers, and watch YouTube videos about sex education. Then, I began sharing what I was learning on my WhatsApp status. People started tuning in, asking questions, and engaging with me. During the COVID lockdown, I began receiving even more messages from people who wanted answers to questions they were too shy to ask elsewhere. That was when I realized there was a real gap that needed filling.

Over time, people around me started to see me as the go-to person for anything related to sex education. Even if I didn’t have all the answers, I could guide them in the right direction. It wasn’t about a single defining moment; it was a gradual build-up that kept reaffirming that this is what I’m meant to do.

The proof is out there. I see the impact in the conversations I’ve started, the awareness I’ve raised, and the people who tell me they now feel comfortable talking about sex simply because they see me doing it confidently. That, to me, is the biggest confirmation that I’m walking in my purpose.

Size & Satisfaction

There’s a lot of societal pressure around penis size. From your perspective as a sex educator, how much does size really matter in sexual satisfaction and intimacy?

Elizabeth: I hold the opinion that size does not matter for sexual satisfaction and intimacy. For me, sex is so much more than just penis-in-vagina intercourse. Pleasure is not determined by size; it’s determined by connection, communication, and understanding what your partner enjoys.

When both partners are attentive, emotionally present, and open to exploration, size becomes irrelevant. I’ve even found that smaller sizes can sometimes provide more comfort and pleasure than larger ones, depending on the dynamics between partners.

I also think porn plays a big role in shaping unrealistic expectations about size and performance. It has created a narrow and exaggerated idea of what “good sex” should look like, which often leads to insecurity and pressure. In reality, pleasure comes from confidence, curiosity, and mutual respect, not from measurements. So while different people may have different preferences, personally, I don’t believe penis size determines satisfaction. Good sex is about presence, trust, and how well you understand and respond to your partner’s needs.

Sexual Health and Wellness

How do you approach the intersection of sexual health and overall wellness in your work, and why do you think it’s important for people to see them as interconnected?

Elizabeth: Sexual health is health. You can’t separate the two. The way we feel in our bodies, our boundaries, our desires, and our confidence all affect our mental, emotional, and even physical well-being.

In my work, I try to help people understand that sexual wellness includes everything: from STI testing and contraception to self-esteem and pleasure literacy. It’s not just about avoiding disease; it’s about building a healthy relationship with your body and your sexuality.

When we treat sexual health as an essential part of holistic wellness, people learn to care for themselves more completely.

Obsessed with Numbers?

What are your thoughts on the “body count” obsession that seems to dominate online conversations about dating and respectability?

Elizabeth: “Body count” is a social construct, and I think the obsession with it is deeply rooted in shame and control. The conversation itself is a form of moral policing, especially of women. Women are held to higher sexual standards than men, and that double standard turns sex, something that’s meant to be natural and personal, into a kind of scoreboard.

What worries me most is how this conversation shames people into silence and insecurity. It creates fear around sexual expression and reinforces the idea that a person’s worth is tied to their sexual history. I also find the body count debate very phallocentric because it focuses only on penis-in-vagina sex when sexuality is so much broader and more diverse than that.

The number of sexual partners someone has does not define their worth or character. Sex isn’t something done to a woman or taken from her; it’s a shared experience. It doesn’t subtract from or diminish your value in any way. What truly matters is safety, mutual respect, consent, and sexual health, including STI testing.

Bedroom Blunders

What are some of the most common mistakes people make in the bedroom, and how can they improve their sexual experiences?

Elizabeth: One of the most common mistakes people make in the bedroom is a lack of communication. Many people assume that what worked for an ex-partner will automatically work for their current one, but that’s not true at all. Everyone’s body is different, and pleasure looks different for everyone.

People also tend to believe that if you love someone, the sex will just be perfect and that your partner will instinctively know what to do, what spots to touch, or how to get you there. But pleasure isn’t guesswork; it’s a collaboration. It requires communication, feedback, and mutual curiosity.

Another big mistake is performing sex instead of experiencing it. So many people treat sex like a performance, focusing on how they look or how they sound, that they forget to actually feel. They forget to enjoy the moment and tune into what’s happening in their bodies.

To improve that, people should start by finding out what they like, because you can’t communicate what you want if you don’t know it yourself. Then, talk about it with your partner, ask questions, be curious about what they enjoy, and focus on what feels good rather than what looks good. Sex should be about connection and experience, not performance.

Everyone Needs to Hear…. 

If you could create a “sex ed superpower” for everyone to have, what would it be, and how would it change people’s experiences”?

Elizabeth: If I could give everyone a “sex ed superpower,” it would be body confidence. Imagine if everyone could fully understand and appreciate their own body without shame and extend that same acceptance to others.

It would change the way we communicate, connect, and experience pleasure. People would stop approaching sex from a place of fear or judgment and start approaching it from a place of curiosity, empathy, and respect.

Vision for the Future

Looking forward, what is your vision for the future of sex education and public health advocacy, and how do you hope your work will continue to impact people’s lives in the coming years?

Elizabeth: My vision for the future of sex education is one where it is normalized and inclusive. I want to see communities in Africa and beyond embrace sexuality as a natural part of human development, not something sinful, shameful, or secret.

I hope my work continues to bridge the gap between ignorance and understanding, helping people unlearn shame and feel more confident in their sexuality, their bodies, and their choices.

Ultimately, I want a world where young people can ask questions without fear, where children receive age-appropriate and developmentally appropriate sex education, and where everyone is empowered to make informed decisions about their lives, free from stigma, myths, and misinformation.

That’s the kind of world I’m working toward, one conversation at a time.

Editor Note

Elizabeth story reminds us that sexuality isn’t just an act or a label, it’s a part of who we are, how we connect with ourselves, and the choices we make. When we understand our bodies without shame and embrace our desires without fear, we reclaim our freedom and ownership over pleasure. 

Her journey shows that breaking taboos and speaking our truths doesn’t just empower usit creates a space where others can feel safe, seen, and confident too. It’s a vision of a world where sexual wellness and self-respect can thrive together.

“Pleasure comes from confidence, curiosity, and mutual respect, not from measurements”