In this candid conversation, Olivia shares her journey of self-discovery, sexual empowerment, and reclaiming pleasure on her own terms. From breaking free of old patterns of love addiction to awakening the energy within her body, she reveals how vulnerability, playfulness, and authenticity reshaped not just her relationships but her entire experience of intimacy.

She speaks on weaving spirituality into sex-positive exploration, the freedom that comes from voicing desires, and how modern adults can rethink traditional relationship norms. For Olivia, being “sexessful” is less about performance and more about presence, self-trust, and the courage to embody your truth.

Step into her story and uncover how pleasure, self-love, and conscious connection can transform into a way of life.

Facing the Hard Truths

In your book, you share how learning to trust your body has changed your entire relationship with pleasure. What was the most pivotal moment in that journey, and how can others begin to rebuild that same trust within themselves?

Olivia: The most pivotal shift in my intimacy journey came during the COVID-19 lockdown. Alone with my thoughts, I was confronted by all the blocks and beliefs I had been avoiding. I struggled to orgasm with my partners, and long-term relationships seemed out of reach. The hardest part was when there was real attachment—ironically, those were the moments I found it most difficult to be vulnerable. I didn’t know it then, but my inability to fully let go in sex was the same fear that kept me from fully letting someone in emotionally.

During that time, I grew curious about sexual energy and how to awaken it within myself. One night, I sat in meditation with sacral chakra frequencies playing and followed my breath—holding, releasing, holding, releasing. Suddenly, a buzzing sensation shot through my body, rising from the base of my spine to the crown of my head. My entire body was alive, turned on, even wet—without a single sexual thought or partner involved.

That experience changed everything. I realized my pleasure and orgasm were never about anyone else; they were about me, my body, and my relationship to myself. Instead of making my story about partners who couldn’t satisfy me, I reclaimed ownership of my body and my pleasure. That moment was the beginning of taking my power back.

Redefining Sin

You’ve been open about seeking love externally before realising your own blockages. If you had to share one “confession” from your past that still influences the way you guide others today, what would it be?

Olivia: I was a love addict, using dating as an escape. On the surface, I seemed open to love always searching, always meeting new partners. But in truth, I was running from myself. Whenever unhappiness set in, I turned to men for validation through sex or romance. I wanted them to rescue me from my problems, to fill the emptiness I couldn’t face on my own.

This pattern kept me stuck in codependent loops. The highs felt intoxicating, but the lows were devastating. Once the fantasy wore off, the love I thought I felt would vanish. Outwardly, I appeared confident, but inside, my self-worth was fragile. One careless comment from a man could make me crumble. I had unknowingly outsourced my value to external circumstances—always chasing, never rooted.

The turning point came when I realized true love can’t be found in someone else’s arms if you’re disconnected from your own. Now, I guide people to self-source their worth, love, and happiness. This is the path to authentic connection—not built on what another can give you or how they can make you feel, but on two whole, complete people choosing to walk together. That’s where love becomes real.

Fun & Playful Experiments

If you could design a “sex-positive adventure” for adults without limits, what would it look like and why?

Olivia:  My sex-positive adventure invites you into the world of energetic sex—a slow, powerful exploration that awakens every sense. Instead of rushing to the finish line, this journey unfolds layer by layer, letting emotion itself become the fuel for desire and turn-on. It’s a space of total surrender, free from attachment or expectation. Here, sex becomes a sacred experience you embody god or goddess energy, moving beyond the physical into something transcendent. This way of loving is healing, transformative, and utterly ecstatic. Time dissolves, boundaries blur, and you melt into each other—merging not just bodies, but souls.

Pleasure & Spirituality

Your work blends sacred sexuality with playfulness. How can pleasure practices be both spiritual and fun, without feeling like they have to be overly serious or “performed”?

Olivia: For a long time, I took my healing journey very seriously. And while that got me part of the way, it also kept me blocked. I learned that spirit guides, wisdom, and creative energy flow best when we’re open—when we soften, instead of gripping for answers. If we’re angry, closed off, or overly rigid, we simply can’t hear the guidance that’s already trying to reach us.

What shifted everything for me was remembering to bring back curiosity and playfulness. When I allowed myself to laugh, to be silly, to enjoy the process rather than obsess over the outcome, the energy moved. Healing became lighter. Pleasure became deeper. My creative flow expanded. And the key is authenticity. If playfulness isn’t your natural style, don’t force it. But for me—someone who has always been funny and playful—I realized I was dimming that part of myself in both sex and healing. I was chasing “the answer” instead of savoring the process. Now, I let my natural joy lead the way.

Speaking Your Desires

If you don’t speak up about what you want, you risk missing not only the moment but also your own pleasure. Why do you think people hold back from expressing their desires, and what’s the first step to breaking that silence?

Olivia: I believe many of us hold back from speaking up because our nervous system carries memories across generations. Staying silent has long been a way to protect ourselves and stay safe. As a recovering people-pleaser, I know this all too well. For years, I chose to keep the peace instead of voicing what I truly wanted. The fear of conflict, pain, or abandonment felt stronger than my desire to express myself. At times, it even felt like life or death—that’s how deeply survival wiring runs through the body.

These are also the fears of the inner child: the part of us that learned early on that speaking up could mean rejection, punishment, or loss of love. When those patterns live unexamined, they continue to silence us as adults, long after the original danger has passed.

The first step is awareness—catching the moments you shrink or swallow your truth. Ask yourself:

What does my body feel when I want to speak but don’t?
Whose voice do I hear in my head when I silence myself?
What am I most afraid will happen if I speak my truth?
Where did I first learn it wasn’t safe to express myself?

 Rethinking Relationship Norms

Do you think traditional ideas of relationships are outdated? How should modern adults rethink monogamy, polyamory, or fluid sexuality?

Olivia: I believe we’re living in a time of powerful sexual and relational exploration. More than ever, people are questioning what love, commitment, and intimacy really mean to them. And at the heart of any relationship—no matter its form—the most important ingredient is communication.

To me, there isn’t a single “right” or “wrong” way to be in a relationship. There’s simply the expression of your truth and the process of finding people who align with that truth. This requires embracing the gray areas instead of clinging to rigid boxes. One of the most liberating shifts is recognizing that your sexuality and your partner’s sexuality are separate from the relationship itself. When you see your sexuality as a living, breathing energy of its own, you stop taking things so personally—and begin to meet yourself and your partner with more curiosity and compassion.

That’s why it’s so important to talk openly about definitions, beliefs, and values when it comes to sex and relationships. These conversations create the foundation for deeper intimacy, authentic connection, and the freedom to explore while staying rooted in honesty.

Defining “Sexessful”

Finally, Olivia, what does being “sexessful” truly mean to you today? Is it about orgasm, self-love, relationships, or something even deeper?

Olivia:  To be Sexessful is less about doing and more about being. In the Western world, we’ve been conditioned to chase outcomes, goals, and finish lines—so much so that we often forget the pleasure that comes from the journey itself. For me, sex isn’t about performance. It’s about becoming the most authentic version of yourself, both in and outside the bedroom. It’s about presence, truth, and the courage to let who you really are be seen.

When we take off the masks and give voice to what our soul truly desires, intimacy stops being a destination and becomes a way of life.

Editor’s Note

Olivia Dydyna invites us to witness the power of reclaiming pleasure, self-trust, and authentic connection. Her journey is a masterclass in courage—breaking free from love addiction, embracing vulnerability, and discovering that true intimacy begins within. Through playful exploration, spiritual alignment, and fearless honesty, Olivia shows that pleasure is not a destination but a way of living fully and unapologetically.

For anyone questioning traditional norms, navigating desire, or seeking a deeper connection to themselves, Olivia’s story is both a guide and an invitation: to honor your body, voice your truth, and embrace intimacy in its most expansive form.

“To be Sexessful is less about doing and more about being—presence, truth, and the courage to let who you really are be seen.”